Monday, Mar. 15, 2004
Choices and Consequences
People have this idea that what they do changes who they are. A married man has an affair and thinks, now I've become a bad person. As if something has changed... You do what you do. Not without consequences for other people of course, sometimes very grave ones."
~ Quoted in the book: The Dive From Clausen's Pier by Ann Packer
Is it helpful to regard your choices as right or wrong ones? Or do YOU define them more than THEY define you?
This week’s topic ~ Choice & Consequence
I have been feeling quite uninspired lately and if you have read this diary before you know I refuse to daylog, I write when I feel the need to talk things out and I feel I have no one to do it with, I write when a topic moves and inspires me, this may be boring for some, but it is a choice I stand by, thus the delay in updates, but this topic for P-O-Y is one I feel passionate about.
I believe that every action has its consequences, every decision we make and every thing we choose to do has consequences, but I don’t believe that your choices define who you are. Throughout my life I have made very bad choices, I have cheated on a loved one, I have lied and I have misled. These are the things I decided to do, knowing fully well that they could bring me consequences that were unwanted, yet that didn’t stop me from making that decision. I don’t believe I am a horrible person for it, I think that I was naïve, I was young and unprepared, I don’t try to justify it, but I do try to learn from it. I am open about the things that I have done because I won’t play the part of the saint and because I believe in honesty but I will not allow someone to judge me, to define the person I am based on the bad choices I have made. If we tried to find the one person on earth that was perfect, I am sure we would all die in our pursuit. We all make mistakes, hence the fact that we are human.
I will be the first to admit that we all tend to label, if you kill, you are a killer, if you rape, you are a rapist, if you lie, you are a liar and if you cheat, you are a cheater. If I were to be honest with myself, I was once a liar, a cheater, a manipulator, but I am none of those anymore, I do see choices as right and wrong, but I will not let my choices define who I am, I am in constant change and what I was is no longer what I am.
r-y-r at 4:14 PM
